When mommy's patience is gone and I'm trying my hardest to not get annoyed as is throwing the toys at Evelyn on the play mat. The times he's crushing her by putting his entire body weight on her, and won't move until I pick him up (Even if she's crying at him) Or pushing in the paci into her mouth when she doesn't want/need it. He's not meaning it meanly towards her, he's just being a 3 year old and sometimes the concept of gentle goes out the window.
Curtis & Evelyn carry on quite the conversations lately. Evelyn with her babbling and grunting, Curtis with is "Sweet Girl "Aw I just love you" and his ever favorite phrase "Ooh Look at Etta-Wynn Mom, aw she's cute" He adores her just so. He never complains if I ask him to hand mommy a diaper, or quick run and grab a paci! He's very attentive to her needs. He always makes sure she has her toys. When she's on the play mat, he will often have me scoot over, so he can chat with her. I'm beyond blessed he loves his little sister.
The days where Curtis pouts around the house, because I simply cannot give him the attention he needs that day. When Evelyn is having a "high maintenance day" or needing extra snuggles before nap time, which results in my 3 year old pouting/crying in the hall because I told him to be quiet 2x already and not to wake his sister who just fell asleep.
The times were he wants to go bye-bye and run errands like we use to. Just me and him. However now the planning, the diaper bag, the arranging schedules, the clothes, hats, coats, carseat, stroller that all have to be arranged to go out the door, makes impromptu "adventures" in the car rare.
The times Bradley and I go on dates with Curtis. Making sure he's loved on, snuggled, and has that attention he needs. Our dates might consist of a grocery store run, or a bank stop. Most of the time accompanied by a drive-thru drink or treat. We try to make it happen 1x a week, but sometimes that's not feasible. Sometimes it's just taking 10-15 minutes playing trains, or cars with him without the distraction of lil sister around. We can always tell when he starts acting up at night around bed time, if he hasn't had enough mommy or daddy time.
It is inevitable, every time I sit down to eat my breakfast/lunch/dinner a kid needs me. either a "i gotta go poop mom!" or a crying hungry baby. Even if I wait to eat my lunch when there down for nap, those tend to be the days evelyn goes "Ha! what nap, I just had a 20min power sleep" 50% of the time I sit down to nurse Evelyn, Curtis ends up falling or crying about something. Sometimes he refuses to go potty on his own (Even though he can do it by himself) I'm sure part of it is jealousy because I'm spending 1 on 1 time nursing Evelyn, but a lot of the time it's just pure coincident.
This is only temporary. Pretty soon all 3 of us can sit down to lunch in peace. Evelyn will soon go in a high chair, Curtis well..he will most likely always have that mid-lunch poop. His system is programmed that way I swear. ;)
Eventually evelyn's nursing times will spread out, and there will be fewer times I will have to stop mid-nurse to wipe a butt, or kiss a boo-boo. (not that I mind it THAT much)
If Bradley is at work late, and I have to do the bath/bed routine by myself. Seriously major props to single moms/military wives, who have to deal with a toddler/baby at bed time. Trying to balance PJ's, nursing, making sure the toddlers quiet while I put the baby down, or making sure the baby's quiet while I tuck the boy in. It's a never ending process.
The times when the kids decide to split nights. My toddler who never wakes up at night, ends up waking up for 2hrs at 2am, while his sister who hasn't slept through the night (Because of RSV/Colds) in weeks finally does an 8hour stretch. Isn't that always the case?
Can I get an amen for helpful husbands? Bradley is awesome at bed time, We swap who bathes what kid, and who gets their pj's on. He reads books while I put Evelyn down, then I go in for the final bed time song/kiss. We make a great team, and I'd likely loose my sanity without his helpful self. (as noted above)
The nights where they both STTN?...That my friends is a WIN! I cannot wait until that is the new normal (soon! Sleep training is in the near future!)
Am I the only crazy mom that deals with these issues?
I have a feeling I'm not alone.